Saturday, June 03, 2006

Honesty is such an important thing to have today. Our brains always try to make assumptions about the things people do. We end up feeling angry or hurt depending on how we interpret people’s actions. So sometimes we need to be honest and frank, but that again takes a lot of skill. It must be done tactfully, not with the intention to hurt that person but out of genuine concern, and must also be done at the appropriate times. In addition, we need to know who we can be honest with, like our close friends and relatives. Being honest is an art and it takes a lot of emotional intelligence to do it well. Sometimes we can’t be totally truthful with people—like I can’t say how I don’t like the present you gave me for my birthday! At the end of the day, if we don’t tell people how we feel towards them and instead react to them according to how we feel, it’s not really fair because you haven’t given them a chance to defend themselves. Striking a balance between complete honesty and sensitivity towards the other party's feelings is indeed something that we probably have to constantly learn how to manage.

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